Anxiety…. What NOT to do

Don’t loose the forms… don’t change the rules… don’t have any surprises… don’t expect to reason… don’t loose the forms.

Yep, the main one for me to remember this week is don’t loose the bloody forms!

DS 9 years has always suffered from anxiety, as a family we adapted to help avoid triggers unnecessarily. It can be annoying all the pre-warning we have to go through, but generally we all do OK …. So who stuffed up?

ME!!!! Lost the forms.

We have just been accepted into a hospital ran anxiety course for 9 weeks, started last week. (It is for DS, not me… I think I’m past the stage where help will work ;))
We got a few forms to fill out at home; they are really hard, I did have them before I lost them because I was contemplating putting a big question mark near each question. (Maybe I unconsciously on purpose lost them so I didn’t feel an idiot!) Who can remember when a child sat, or said their first word? I know he was late, But NFI what his exact age he was. I don’t only have a 1 or 2 children, I get confused what one did what when, AND... WTF is with the questions that can be interpretated 5 ways and depending on the day you can have all the possible answers.... but you can only mark 1...

I honestly don’t know what I did with them, unless I sent them to Perth with the forms I had to fill out for a different child. Health places assume if they send a form out you will know WHAT child it is for… NOT TRUE… I have 3 that have extra needs, and all the forms look the same, (PUT THE CHILDS NAME ON THE FORM BEFORE you send it… health profession people) This would help stressed, sleep deprived parents get it right ;)
I was going to get new forms; unfortunately M realised and started to panic, SOMETIMES you can talk him through it, explain it is OK. Not this time… After a long day at school, and him stressing about going to this course, he was already on edge.
From the moment he realised I didn’t have the forms you could see his whole body demeanour change, and NO WAY was he going to participate in anything at all, he reverts into him self… then gets sad…. Cries/ shakes then explodes… after this he attempts to hide… generally under something like a chair etc.

We are attending this to HELP his issues,
Attempting to give him some coping strategies…. Not make him worse.

I think Mother of the day award goes to me! #1

Let’s hope next week is better. :)